10 12 2012
Tony 2002

Tony 2002

G’day. I’m Tony Robertson Welcome to my collection of sites about us blokes! By way of introduction, I’m a post-war baby-boomer, White Australian, Gay Christian Male with a commitment to non-violent living.  And in all that I find the joys and hopes the grief and anguish of life!!!

I am also a Community Jester and Ritual Maker. Some of my life is lived here in the cyber-world of open speech and free expression which I hope you will share.

This site is dedicated to my father, Alexander Robertson who inspired my social awareness and my commitment to social change for those on the edge of our community.

I welcome your visit and your engagement with this site.


9 November 2018

8 11 2018

I know that I’m a prisoner
To all my Father held so dear
I know that I’m a hostage
To all his hopes and fears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years

Alex Kath and 3 week old Tony

Alex Kath and 3 week old Tony

On this day in  1992 my father, Alex, died. It was the end of a long period of loss in my life that haunts me still. I really “lost” my father when I was a young teenager. We just stopped talking and I began to learn to live alone without an adult mentor. In August 2012 my mother also passed away. To  honour them both I have published this image of my parents holding me at three weeks.

Say it loud, say it clear
You can listen as well as you hear
It’s too late when we die
To admit we don’t see eye to eye

I wasn’t there that morning
When my Father passed away
I didn’t get to tell him
All the things I had to say

My father was my hero. I was the eldest son and I cherished that early experience of “first IMG_0139claim” to his love and attention. In the shrine I designed to his memory there are two photos of Dad and me, just the two of us. They are the only photos ever taken of just us two. In one he is holding me  as a new babe and gazing down into my eyes. The other is a classic of Dad supporting me on his old “28 inch” bike with me in a baby dress of a typical one year old of the era!!! The bike was a great symbol of those early years. I have so many happy memories of Dad taking me for a “dink” sitting on the bar while he peddled. I still remember the nervous thrill of riding that same bike before I could even reach the seat. Somehow, once I learnt to ride on my own everything changed.

My father gave me inspiration. His faith was a traditional Catholicism with a passion for the poor and the marginalised. He would often take me with him to his voluntary work at the night shelter for the homeless in Geelong. Later in my teens I remember being in awe when I heard a testimonial to Dad and stories I never knew were made public of his commitment to the work of “Vinnies”

Our relationship was a  bonding through unspoken words. I was a headstrong adolescent with a fiery temper that must have worried him. I was also an inquisitive young gay boy which I suspect he knew and carried inside with great anxiety and fear. Our religion and our culture didn’t allow us to explore the curiosity and libido inside me.

We shared a love of music and it was his collection of jazz and musicals that I played over and over.He read widely and from his bookcase I discovered the writings of Thomas Merton, Banjo Paterson, Boris Pasternak and so many more.

I miss my Dad, I miss all we could have been for each other. As he lay dying the  “Living Years” lyrics were all around me like a spirit calling me to face the loss of so much. His funeral was a great tribute  with some music from Bing Crosby as well as a passionate version of “Come to The Water”. as we gave him over on the final journey  nearer to his God.

Though like the wanderer,
The sun gone down,
Darkness be over me,
My rest a stone,
Yet in my dreams I’d be
Nearer, my God, to thee,
Nearer, my God, to thee,
Nearer to thee!

I am like my father in many ways. I have his strength and resilience. I have his passion and I suspect I share much of his quiet reserve about his inner life………..yet in a way this writing is a long step from “quiet reserve”!! He served in Borneo and  PNG during WWII. He never marched in an ANZAC parade and never really spoke of what happened to him during those frightful years. We both hide much of our lives deep inside where no-one has access, except perhaps the spirit of healing who alone can break through the heavy heart.

RIP my loving Dad. I miss you still.


National Men’s Health Strategy: Have Your Say!

16 10 2018

The Government has published its Draft National Men’s Health Strategy and you have until Monday 5th November 2018 to make sure you have your say. If you want to help create a healthier future for men and boys in Australia, then make your voice heard by making time to respond to the Government consultation on its draft strategy.

To make it easier for you to find out what’s in the new National Men’s Health Strategy we’ve published a summary of the key points here:

There’s lots of information to take on board as the strategy includes the following:

  • 3 big goals
  • 5 top health issues
  • 9 at-risk groups
  • 4 stages of manhood
  • 5 essential rules
  • 3 areas of funding
  • 5 things that funded projects must do
  • 4 tips to make it male-friendly
  • 9 key actions to improve men’s health
  • 5 checks and balances to keep the strategy on track

You can make sure you make your voice heard by taking part in our survey about the strategy here:

The National Men’s Health Strategy (2020-2030) provides a unique opportunity to shape the future of men’s health in Australia over the next decade. Make sure you get involved and have your say by:

The Blokes Project

30 01 2018

The BLOKES Project includes a new dance work (performed on a shipping container, researched with family & community elders in their truck yards, sheds & vehicles) investigating the embodied myths, truths and stereotypes of how to be Australian. Beyond the Beer and the Bullshit.

Dancing to ‘break the cycle’ of damage to self and others without shame or disassociation of our own heritage.

In an age of toxic masculinity, how can we turn the critical lens on ourselves to build a new narrative of how to be a BLOKE?


The BLOKES Project (90 second trailer) from TheMattmosphere on Vimeo.


Movember 2017

1 11 2017


Yes, it’s time to grow the mo again in #Movember.Now as a senior male I continue my passion for men and their health. Please join me in this fun and vital campaign. I have chosen to raise $500 this year. You can contribute to my goal by using the fundraising link below. Your donation could get you a framed copy of this amazing image!!!!

Tony Robertson Movember Appeal 2017

Thanks for your solidarity.


Healthy Bodies For Blokes

8 06 2014

The Voice of Youth

13 05 2014